Saturday, May 16, 2009
was wondering after lesson by chuan guan shifu on wednesdae. Topic of the day was marriage...
He was mentioning about rape IN marriage. He further went on to discuss whether buddhism really is against marriage?
Well... Buddhism does not support or discourage anyone from marriage. But buddhism encourages all to consider thoroughly before entering into marriage... There are many many things which i believe modern day people do not consider before entering the graveyard of marriage... First of... When they are deeply in love, they failed to recognise that after marriage... there is a need to support the other half in monetary terms... some ladies nowadays believe that as long as there is love... they would be able to survive and they are willing to stick through thick and thin with the man that they love despite them being lowly paid... however, once honeymoon period for the marriage is over and they have to start facing life as it is... they realise that things are no longer as nice as wat they had visualised... married life isn't is as beautiful as they thought it would be... they start fighting... Of course not forgetting... with marriage life comes another package... SEX... inevitably.. people tend to think it is perfectly to think of sex in a marriage... however... after all the quarrels that occur aftr some time.. ladies tend to.... well.... shun away the other half... this is the time when troubles start to brew... some desperado would start to "force" themselves on the other half... thus resulting in the problem... RAPE IN MARRIAGE...
However... think of it this way... we were all in breed with the idea that sex and marriage comes as a package... once u r married... you are entitled to "sleeping" with the other half... so how should the court rule when the woman is just no longer INTERESTED in the deed? it cannot be totally considered raping right? afterall they are still lawfully wedded and .......
after all this... i still think we should consider whether we are IN LOVE or simply just BEING IN LOVE? are we loving the other half wholeheartedly? Do we consider their positions no matter what we do? Do we realli love them in the sense that we are willing to sacrifice our personal gains for them? or are we simply jus being in love? we are loving the feeling of being loved? are we simply jus being realli happi with being loved by the other person... are we in love with the way the other half thinks of u no matter wad he/she does? tat u are always in 1st position when something needs to be done?
Go Figure....
9:52 PM
Indecisive...
He was mentioning about rape IN marriage. He further went on to discuss whether buddhism really is against marriage?
Well... Buddhism does not support or discourage anyone from marriage. But buddhism encourages all to consider thoroughly before entering into marriage... There are many many things which i believe modern day people do not consider before entering the graveyard of marriage... First of... When they are deeply in love, they failed to recognise that after marriage... there is a need to support the other half in monetary terms... some ladies nowadays believe that as long as there is love... they would be able to survive and they are willing to stick through thick and thin with the man that they love despite them being lowly paid... however, once honeymoon period for the marriage is over and they have to start facing life as it is... they realise that things are no longer as nice as wat they had visualised... married life isn't is as beautiful as they thought it would be... they start fighting... Of course not forgetting... with marriage life comes another package... SEX... inevitably.. people tend to think it is perfectly to think of sex in a marriage... however... after all the quarrels that occur aftr some time.. ladies tend to.... well.... shun away the other half... this is the time when troubles start to brew... some desperado would start to "force" themselves on the other half... thus resulting in the problem... RAPE IN MARRIAGE...
However... think of it this way... we were all in breed with the idea that sex and marriage comes as a package... once u r married... you are entitled to "sleeping" with the other half... so how should the court rule when the woman is just no longer INTERESTED in the deed? it cannot be totally considered raping right? afterall they are still lawfully wedded and .......
after all this... i still think we should consider whether we are IN LOVE or simply just BEING IN LOVE? are we loving the other half wholeheartedly? Do we consider their positions no matter what we do? Do we realli love them in the sense that we are willing to sacrifice our personal gains for them? or are we simply jus being in love? we are loving the feeling of being loved? are we simply jus being realli happi with being loved by the other person... are we in love with the way the other half thinks of u no matter wad he/she does? tat u are always in 1st position when something needs to be done?
Go Figure....
9:52 PM
Indecisive...
